Marriage Unfaithfulness. RCCG Teachers Manual

OPENING PRAYER: Father, help all couples to be faithful in there marriages.
MEMORY VERSE: “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” – Hebrews 13:4

BIBLE PASSAGE: Proverbs 7:6-27
Pro 7:6 One day I was looking out my window
Pro 7:7 at some foolish teenagers and noticed one who had no sense at all.
Pro 7:8 He was walking through the marketplace and came to the corner where a certain woman lived. He then turned up the road that goes by her house.
Pro 7:9 The day was ending. The sun had set, and it was almost dark.
Pro 7:10 Suddenly, there she was in front of him, dressed like a prostitute. She had plans for him.
Pro 7:11 She was a wild and rebellious woman who would not stay at home.
Pro 7:12 She walked the streets, always looking for someone to trap.
Pro 7:13 She grabbed the young man and kissed him. Without shame, she looked him in the eye and said,
Pro 7:14 “I offered a fellowship offering today. I gave what I promised to give,
Pro 7:15 and I still have plenty of food left. So I came out to find you, and here you are!
Pro 7:16 I have clean sheets on my bed—special ones from Egypt.
Pro 7:17 My bed smells wonderful with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
Pro 7:18 Come, let’s enjoy ourselves all night. We can make love until dawn.
Pro 7:19 My husband has gone on a business trip.
Pro 7:20 He took enough money for a long trip and won’t be home for two weeks.”
Pro 7:21 This is what the woman said to tempt the young man, and her smooth words tricked him.
Pro 7:22 He followed her, like a bull being led to the slaughter. He was like a deer walking into a trap,
Pro 7:23 where a hunter waits to shoot an arrow through it’s heart. The boy was like a bird flying into a net, never seeing the danger he was in.
Pro 7:24 Now, sons, listen to me. Pay attention to what I say.
Pro 7:25 Don’t let your heart lead you to an evil woman like that. Don’t go where she wants to lead you.
Pro 7:26 She has brought down some of the most powerful men; she has left many dead bodies in her path.
Pro 7:27 Her house is the place of death. The road to it leads straight to the grave.

LESSON INTRODUCTION

In Christian marriage, every man must cleave to his own wife, and every wife cleaves to her own husband (Genesis 2:24), The Bible commends chaste matrimony in all sorts of men, and threatens utter destruction from God against whoremongers and adulterers (Hebrews 13:4).

TEXT REVIEW: Proverbs 7:6-27.

Proverbs 7:1-23 describes the wiles of a harlot and their operations in the evening, in the corner, in the street, in the black and dark night, as applicable in our cities today. Proverbs 7:8-9.
One of their wiles to trap men who lack understanding is that they put on “the attire of a harlot” and their “subtle approach” -Vs 10.
Identify any other wiles, tricks or habits of a harlot from today’s bible reading
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LESSON OUTLINES

LESSON OUTLINE 1: MEANING AND CAUSES OF MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS

Question: What is marital unfaithfulness?

Answers:
i. It is the failure of the spouse (either or both) to keep the marital vows.
ii. It is cheating on a partner in marriage.
ii. It is a loss of commitment and dedication to a spouse in all spheres.
Question: What are the likely causes of marital unfaithfulness?

Answers:
i. Failure to provide for the basic needs of the partner/home. 1 Tim. 5:8.
ii. Unbelief or no respect for the position of the word of God on infidelity.
iii. Lack of commitment or problem of unseriousness to the marital vows
iv. Lack of contentment. 1 Tim. 6:6.
v. Bad company or evil associations. 1 Cor.15:33.
vi. Lack of self-control. 1 Cor. 7:5; Titus 2:4,6
CLASS ACTIVITY 1: Mention other reasons we have a high rate of infidelity in our marriages in our society today.
LESSON OUTLINE 2: EFFECTS OF MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS AND THE WAY OUT
Question: What are the effects and consequences of marital unfaithfulness?

Answers:

i. It produces district and erodes trust among couples.
ii. Can lead to unforgiveness, hatred and bitterness. Prov. 15:17.
iii. Sexual activity with a strange woman/man can result in various sexually transmitted diseases (STD) Prov. 7:23.
iv. It can lead to separation and divorce. 1 Cor. 7:10; Matt. 19:1-9.
v. It can lead to corrupt and immoral children
vi. It can cause peace to cease in the affected homes. Prov. 14:1; Jer. 6:14.
Question: What are the possible solutions to the problem of marital unfaithfulness?

Answers:
i. Couples must learn to satisfy themselves sexually.
ii. Married couples must embrace the divine principle of “godliness and contentment”. Prov. 5:15-20, 1 Tim. 6:6.
iii. Partners should learn to appreciate each other.
iv. Couples should learn the act of sexual lovemaking
v. Couples should understand the sexual need of each other and satisfy it.
vi. Trust and genuine love should not be compromised.
vii. Couples should fear God always. Eph. 5:21; Prov. 8:13; 2Tim. 2:19.