Understanding Conflict Management In The Family.

Memory Verse: “Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men”- Romans 12:17. 

Bible Passage: Genesis 13: 7-9.

Introduction

A family is defined as a group of people related by blood, marriage, adoption or custom. Generally, conflict can be defined as a solid disagreement between persons or groups that often results in heated arguments. Conflict management is the practice of being able to identify and handle conflict sensibly, fairly and efficiently. Conflict is inevitable. No relationship is perfect or conflict-free, but conflict when managed biblically can serve as a catalyst for change and opportunity for good family growth. 

OUTLINES 

1. CONFLICT IN THE FAMILY AND ITS CAUSES 
2. BIBLICAL WAYS OF MANAGING CONFLICT WITHIN THE FAMILY

CONFLICT IN THE FAMILY AND ITS CAUSES 

I. Misunderstanding among members of immediate or extended family.

ii. Contradictory interest among family members (Amos 3:3).

iii. Incompatibility 

iv. Unresolved disagreement (Eph. 4: 26-27).

v. Lack of trust (Prov. 31:11). 

vi. Unforgiveness (2 Cor. 2:10-11). 

vii. Communication gap (Heb. 13:16). 

viii. Unfaithfulness (Gen. 39:7-12).

ix. Financial challenges (1 Timothy 6:8-10). 

x. Lack of genuine love (Col. 3:19; 1 Peter 1:22).

BIBLICAL WAYS OF MANAGING CONFLICT WITHIN THE FAMILY

1. Examine yourselves (Ps. 26:2; 2 Cor. 13:5).
2. Love God and put him at the centre of your family (Deut. 6:4-5). 
3. Forgive one another (Luke 17:3; Eph. 4:26). 
4. Communicate effectively and resolve all conflicts as fast as possible (Romans 12:17-18). 
5. Maintain openness and sincerity with one another (Gen. 2:25).
6. Live a life of humility (Prov. 29:23; Jer. 13:18).
7. Love one another (1 Peter 1:22). 
8. Revenge not yourself for wrongs done against you (Romans 12:19).
9. Commit your ways to the Lord (Ps. 37:5). 
10. Take every matter to God in prayers (James 5:16). 

CONCLUSION: According to the word of God, all old conflicts must be resolved while there should not be an occasion for a new one for God to accept our worship (Matt. 5:23-25). 

QUESTIONS

1. What are the causes of conflicts within the family?
2. Mention five (5) ways of managing conflict within the family. 

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